No, actually, that's an understatement. My parents have basically forbidden me to go.
I dunno if they're real fags or what, but they dropped the bombshell on me this morning when I was groggy and wincing at the oil in my roti prata. They say I can't go.
It was one of the few conversations we still have that isn't about the water pump, or tuition fees, or "your allowance is on the table". This is, in brief terms, what they said (father did most of the talking):
My lack of experience
I could get robbed, or worse (they purposefully did not elaborate)
The EU is very far away
Going with something like a tour group is much safer
Us being in a small group makes us vulnerable (I asked: What's a big group? His answer: 20 people)
They don't feel comfortable
My mother cried (her only contribution to the conversation), "It's winter!" (My father said, it's not about winter)
He doesn't care if TOFU has gone to China alone; he doesn't care about experience
But after probing further, he said it is about experience: Except by his standards we're too young to have any (he didn't actually say that, but he did say stuff about our age, and I know him just well enough - this fits in with the kind of person he is)
He doesn't want to meet with TOFU/Panzerz and discuss.
Okay, while I'm still suitably groggy and detached, here's a few extra things I think were relevant:
They don't trust me (my father said it to my face before)
And by association, they don't trust you, you, or you
They are people who adhere strongly to social law (which means you can't go overseas by yourself without your parents at age 16, because that's unheard of)
My mother is the worry-spammer, my father is the one who thinks about more practical stuff (but he's still a prude)
Again, they don't trust me. I've been growing distant from them very quickly, and since my mother's free ice-cream and twisties aren't working, I imagine that my disappearance to EU would only rub in their loss more (My mother is particularly upset about this). They understand me about as much as they understand a dog. We're strangers, and my parents definitely do not trust strangers (which is all of us here at PFort).
They have the impression I'm doing badly in my studies? Not so sure about this. My F9 in Chinese doesn't faze them any longer, and they have no idea about my DPA or anything else going on in my life. Their only clues are the report card (which isn't that bad IMO) and my addiction to TF2.
Once again, I reiterate:
They have no desire to talk to Panzer and TOFU
Me and my parents have a very bad relationship; I can't talk to my mother at all and can barely talk to my father.
They were adverse to the idea of letting me meet Ryan last year. Ryan was the webmaster of GunZFactor, lives in the US, and is about 20 plus. They were afraid he was going to pedo me (since it's a known cliche that every friend you have on the internet is a 45-year old in disguise, THANK YOU MOTHERFUCKING DUMBASS MEDIA). Despite that he was inviting me to the grand opening of Hellgate: London (which had a fuckload of people there).
Simply, they're kiasu/kiasee, and they're paranoid. They're very very wary of being deceived.
They're also scared of being robbed
What's my next move?
Get your parents to vouch for your street-smarts?
Come up with a bunch of statistics that say EU (or just the places we're going to) is damn safe?
Postpone trip to somewhere far away in the future?
Go somewhere closer to home?
Tell them that I'm an adventurous faggot, I'm planning on going to even more dangerous places like the Middle East and they're not going to cage me forever so they might as well let me out now?
Go on without me?
Also for the record, I am trying to be able to provide financial support whether or not I'm going.
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SHIT. SHIT. SHIT. My parents are already reluctant about it being a small group and this is only going to make it worse. I guess I'm lucky I was ever in NCC so that means I could convince them I won't die. But still, we need more people. Maybe its because its europe...but we really need to rethink this. WE NEED TO GO. If not we just end up like all the other failed epic plans.
Anyway, would it be more comforting if I said I can shoot? (Guns..) LOLOL
If you knew seventeen different kinds of martial arts or something...
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